‘I’m divorcing my husband so that our girlfriend isn’t jealous’ – wife
Cristina, 31, and Benno Kaiser, 37, from Austin, Texas have been happily married 12 years
The couple from Austin, Texas who share three children, and THE SAME girlfriend, want to make their three-person arrangement permanent
For spice, bisexual Cristina, also introduced Sierra Kuntz, 21, into their matrimonial bed
Cristina and Benno are divorcing after 12 years so one of them can wed Sierra and give her legal rights to their children
Husband and wife will flip the coin to decide who’ll wed Sierra and make the relationship between the threesome official and permanent
Cristina [left], and Benno [right], are in the process of divorcing to create room for either to wed their shared mistress Sierra [center]. The arrangement will give her legal rights to the three children in the union
A young couple in Austin Texas have come up with a novel strategy to keep their polyamorous union with a common mistress official and long term.
The couple who have been married for 12 years and have three children together are getting divorced so that their ‘girlfriend’ won’t get jealous.
31-year-old Cristina Benno and her 37-year-old husband Benno Kaiser haven’t yet decided which of them will wed their 21-year-old lover, Sierra Kuntz, so that all three can have legal rights to their children.
Benno, a legal assistant, said: ‘Cristina and I decided this was something that needed to be done in order for Sierra to understand the depth of how much we love her and want her to be part of our family.
The poly triad family with children: [L-R] 11-year-old Isaiah, 11, Brianna, six, mother Cristina, shared mistress Sierra, Rebecca, seven, and Benno
Cristina and Benno are planning to divorce so that one of them can marry Sierra. The change in dynamic will give the third member of the union legal rights to the three children in the household.
According to Benno ”The benefits of one of us marrying her are going to be on many different levels. She is going to be legally considered a parent to the children and, more importantly, it will show her that this is not a temporary thing,’ Benno said.
‘We both love her and it’s something that’s meant to be permanent.’
A decade later, Cristina who is bisexual, began to feel something was missing from her love life: ‘Initially, it was my idea to open the marriage. I brought it to Benno’s attention and told him I would like to introduce women to our relationship to see where it goes.
‘Other than that we had everything going for us. Three kids, a great relationship and adding Sierra into our lives has just made it a hundred times better, I feel like I’m complete.’
Integral, happy, polyamorous family: Sierra, Benno and Cristina. Cristina admits: ‘Initially, it was my idea to open the marriage. I brought it to Benno’s attention and told him I’d like to introduce women to our relationship’
She met their prospective common spouse, Sierra, at the local shopping mall in Las Vegas, where she was working in a pet store.
The pair went on a few dates and to Cristina’s delight, Sierra was willing to join her marriage – and shortly after Benno was introduced into the mix.
Cristina [left], opened up the marriage when she introduced Sierra [right], into their bed
Sierra said: ‘At first I was very hesitant about getting involved with a married couple.
‘I was worried that I would be disposable and that this was a phase they were going through. But when I spent time with them I realized what they wanted and feel this was a situation I could work with, so I jumped on board.’
The relationship progressed and the three decided to take the next step in their ‘three-lationship,’ and the trio are adamant that their ‘permanent’ relationship is for keeps, but Benno admits their lifestyle ‘isn’t for everyone’
The trio said they ‘don’t hold back on one another. Feelings and amorous activities are shared equally’
Cristina, left, found what she was looking for at the local shopping center in Las Vegas, where she met Sierra, who was working in a pet store
Benno said: ‘Sierra and Christina and I all clicked and shortly after our first date we knew that we were meant to be with her and that this was something we wanted to pursue.
‘It was just the natural course to take – to have her move into the home.
‘My feelings for the both are equal. I love them both without question. They are both very much part of my life and I couldn’t imagine living my life without either of them.’
‘My feelings for the both are equal. I love them both without question… I couldn’t imagine living my life without either of them’ – Benno [right]
He said: ‘We share a bed together, we share everything together, so since we met Sierra we have not had a night that we don’t all involve each other in some sort of sexual activity.
He says of his two partners: ‘My feelings for the both are equal. I love them both without question… I couldn’t imagine living my life without either of them’
One happy family: ‘Our children have been very supportive of this. They have understood’
‘Our children have been very supportive of this. They have understood’: Benno, far right with Crisina, Sierra (center) and their three kids insist the family have no issue with the setup
‘It’s busy. There are lots of hands everywhere. The beauty of what we do is that we can have a very active sexual life and it’s completely safe and it’s with people that we love.
‘I don’t ever have to worry about having a boring sex life 20 years from now when other couples or monogamous couples are. We have a lot of intimacy between all three of us.’
Since moving into the family home, Sierra has become the main caregiver for the trio’s children, staying at home while Benno and Cristina go out to work.
Benno said: ‘We had talked to our children before this and let them know we wanted to adopt someone and bring somebody into our relationship. Our children have been very supportive of this. They have understood.’
Now Sierra says she feels as much a mother to the children as Cristina, and the children even call her ‘Mommy’.
Benno says of his family: ‘Sierra and Cristina and I all clicked and shortly after our first date we knew that we were meant to be with her and that this was something we wanted to pursue’
Benno, volunteered that there has not been a single night where the trio have not ‘involved each other in some sort of sexual activity’ since they officially got together.
When it comes to raising the children in the family, Sierra said: ‘I absolutely feel like their mum. I hope now, they love me, they call me ‘mommy Sierra’ and I love them just as much.
‘I’m not jealous that the children are not biologically related to me at all. Just because I didn’t birth them doesn’t mean I can’t love them and they can’t love me. That doesn’t hinder my love at all for them.’
Two members of the polyamorous household Cristina [left], and Sierra [center], share mommy duties raising their three children. The children are the product of the marriage between Cristina and Benno Kaiser
Sierra said: ‘There is really not jealousy in our relationship. Sometimes we have a hard time communicating because there are three people instead of two, but we always work through it.
Benno said of their unusual setup: ‘We had talked to our children before this and let them know we wanted to adopt someone and bring somebody into our relationship’
‘I absolutely feel like their mom,’ Sierra, who is pictured helping Brianna, six, with homework, says. ‘I hope now, they love me, they call me ‘mommy Sierra’ and I love them just as much’
Cristina jumps in to share the homework time with the children
‘Every one of us is different,’ says proud dad Benno. ‘But before you judge, take a look at our lives and see the benefit of it. I couldn’t imagine my life any other way’
‘We have always been the best in every situation and we always work through our problems.’
The trio said ‘We share all of our feelings with each other and we don’t hold anything back’
Benno added: ‘We share all of our feelings with each other and we don’t hold anything back.
‘Everything is equal, so there is nothing to be jealous of. We are very happy with all three of us together.’
Last year Benno and Cristina reportedly took the decision to file for divorce, although they have every intention of staying together. The strategy is that once the divorce is finalized later this year, either Benno or Christina will marry Sierra.
They are yet to roll the dice to decide who does the honor of wedding their ‘common spouse. Sierra.
Sierra (center) admits: ‘I was worried that I would be disposable’. She says over time the couple have made her comfortable and secure
Sierra admits: ‘I was worried that I would be disposable and that this was a phase [Cristina and Benno] were going through. But when I spent time with them I realized what they wanted and feel this was a situation I could work with, so I jumped on board’
Sierra said: ‘It was Benno and Christina’s idea for the divorce but it won’t change anything, it’s just who is going to be legally married to who.
‘They decided that would be the best way to make sure that I didn’t feel disposable. It wasn’t my idea but I really don’t care whom I’m married to – I love them both.’
Benno said: ‘This lifestyle isn’t for everyone. There are a lot of people that are monogamous and are happy with just being with one person and that’s completely fine.
‘Every one of us is different. But before you judge, take a look at our lives and see the benefit of it. I couldn’t imagine my life any other way.’